When my husband and I split up after four years, we both dealt with it in our own ways.
He started dating someone who was 15 years younger than him, and they embarked on a hard partying lifestyle.
Last I heard he was drinking and popping pills, and was in danger of losing his job at the plant. I got through my sadness without resorting to drinking or drugs, thank goodness, and tried to use the pain as a way to propel me forward into a new chapter of my life. Almost immediately I got a gym membership and signed up for several different classes to see which one I liked best. I know it’s a big cliche that the divorced woman starts going to the gym for the first time in 20 years, but there is a reason for that cliche. When you realize you have become complacent in life and need to reinvent yourself, then working out and getting physically fit is a great place to start. There are a lot of things in life you can’t control, but pushing yourself in a workout program or a health plan is something every person can control. A workout program isn’t just about losing weight or packing on muscle, it is about finding your self confidence again. For some people, going to the gym and sweating it out is a great way to build yourself up both physically and mentally. After just a few months at the gym I am feeling like a whole new person, and am excited for my life to start over.